Marc was involved in the death of my dad and lied about it and the multiple personalities thing well into our original marriage, not as bad as your Anders starting a war, but like I said, I'm probably as close to someone understanding this shit show as anyone.
Because there's a difference between maliciously lying and using me and him being a communicationally and emotionally constipated wreck that doesn't know how to trust or let someone in. Who's been hurt and hurt again that he doesn't know the meaning of love without that.
But he let me in. He told me everything... eventually. We fought and struggled, it wasn't easy and it was really ugly, I thought it would be the end of us. But then I died and I realized I loved him more than I hated him. That I was willing to try and forgive him because he was willing to trust me to love him without hurting him, that he promised to be honest with me going forward.
I'm going out on a limb for him, but sometimes you have to if you want to learn to trust again.
But he did lie knowing full well what Anders had done and how deeply it hurt me. I understand why when we were strangers but once we became intimate that reasoning shouldn't have held.
Honestly, he should have told you sooner, I will fault him that. He should have talked to Marc and shared that with you, but you have to remember that for him protecting Marc is more than just important to him than anything. It's part of why he came to be, it's probably something he will never be able to shake his need to do.
It took me a while to wrap my head around it, but those two are closer than siblings, closer than twins. They're integral to each other.
And I'm aware he's not a spirit it is simply the only real understanding I have of how Steven came into existence. A scared, hurt, young boy called out and Protection answered.
It's okay to hurt though and to be caught up in that feeling, to need time, what's important is finding the gumption to move past it. Hopefully together.
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Marc was involved in the death of my dad and lied about it and the multiple personalities thing well into our original marriage, not as bad as your Anders starting a war, but like I said, I'm probably as close to someone understanding this shit show as anyone.
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Why did you forgive him? After all he did and lied to you about. Why forgive?
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Because there's a difference between maliciously lying and using me and him being a communicationally and emotionally constipated wreck that doesn't know how to trust or let someone in. Who's been hurt and hurt again that he doesn't know the meaning of love without that.
But he let me in. He told me everything... eventually. We fought and struggled, it wasn't easy and it was really ugly, I thought it would be the end of us. But then I died and I realized I loved him more than I hated him. That I was willing to try and forgive him because he was willing to trust me to love him without hurting him, that he promised to be honest with me going forward.
I'm going out on a limb for him, but sometimes you have to if you want to learn to trust again.
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But he did lie knowing full well what Anders had done and how deeply it hurt me. I understand why when we were strangers but once we became intimate that reasoning shouldn't have held.
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It took me a while to wrap my head around it, but those two are closer than siblings, closer than twins. They're integral to each other.
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And I'm aware he's not a spirit it is simply the only real understanding I have of how Steven came into existence. A scared, hurt, young boy called out and Protection answered.
He is not doing well, is he?
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No, but Marc and I are taking care of him. What about you? How are you, Hawke?
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It is... quiet without him in my life.
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It's okay to hurt though and to be caught up in that feeling, to need time, what's important is finding the gumption to move past it. Hopefully together.
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Tell him I will talk to him again. I do promise that.
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And I will pass that along.